When work becomes disempowering, stand your ground.

I choose what I want to eat or drink, anything that fancies my mood because that is more predictable than yours. I choose who I want to be with or where I want to go during the one hour lunch because it's a breather from the 9 to 6 of being back in school or … Continue reading When work becomes disempowering, stand your ground.

It’s not about me, but it needs to start with me.

Before I started work in my not-so-new job, I wrote down a list of reasons to remind myself of why I accepted the job, and also made a checklist to help me make a decision at the end of one year if I should stay or go. Here I am appraising my employer shortly after … Continue reading It’s not about me, but it needs to start with me.

This is what stepping into my discomfort zone looks like.

I am on a bullet train and I have to transit at some interchange ahead to change lines. But I am so exhausted I let myself fall asleep anyway. I awake later to find that I have missed some stops and will now need to make a detour. The train has stopped at a station … Continue reading This is what stepping into my discomfort zone looks like.

Water off a duck’s back

This was a mantra I had heard repeatedly in RuPaul's Drag Race Season 5 by the winner Jinkx Monsoon every time she had to stand in front of the judges for their critics. I was a little slow to understand why she kept saying that. But the moment I had the literal visualisation of those words in my head, … Continue reading Water off a duck’s back